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#49: Dangerous Life– Missionary Dating
Dating is difficult! There is so much to consider, including whether or not to date outside of the Christian faith. This episode is all about missionary dating. What is it? Should we do it? The team shares their thoughts on this and so much more.
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Welcome to the Dangerous Faith Podcast and YouTube channel, and we're also on Rumble and Twitter and Instagram and all that good stuff. With me, we have Mackenzie, isaac, blake and Zeke. I'm glad to be able to talk about missionary dating. Anyways, isaac and Blake had an intimate moment there and, regardless, we are talking about missionary dating today, and so I just want to kick us off with a question. Do we have any missionary dating experiences or stories? So, before we do that, actually let's define it. Someone tell me what is missionary dating, isaac, when?
Speaker 3:a missionary dates.
Speaker 4:Give me some.
Speaker 1:That is one literal interpretation of the term. What is another definition for missionary dating?
Speaker 4:I was told it's when a person goes on a mission trip and dates the other people.
Speaker 1:That is another possibility. Ding ding, ding. Mackenzie, could you tell us what is missionary dating?
Speaker 5:I think it's dating with the intention of trying to get the other person saved, or kind of trying to fix them or kind of bring them up to your level, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like a Christian dating a non-Christian for the purposes of evangelism. Well, we'll get into that, Anyways. So can someone here tell me their experiences with missionary dating? How did it go and what did we learn? Was it a good thing, bad thing? Someone tell me their experience with it? Blake Blake is chomping at the bit to talk to us about his life.
Speaker 4:It sucked. It's terrible.
Speaker 1:Do I have to go into details?
Speaker 4:I don't want to talk about it.
Speaker 1:So, blake, you don't need to go into all the details. But just what was your overall thoughts and impressions of missionary dating? All right, well, I'm going to name drop.
Speaker 4:No, I will slap you, I'm kidding, no, I would say it's just so. Much goes wrong with it. So I guess, for the sake of time, because I could tune in one day, I'll get my testimony, I'll tell all about that, but for the sake of time, when I missionary dated, the reason why it was so terrible is it was like kind of having it both ways. So this girl and it was not any fault to her own, but this girl just did not believe, but she fulfilled everything that was like my sinful nature. So the lust aspect, the carefree, the not wanting to hold to authority, no rules, she fulfilled every part of my flesh in that way. And so what I would try to do is because, obviously, while that's fun, like fun, it's dangerous and it's not of God, it doesn't please God and it's not something that Christians should do. So I was torn between wanting to do what was right, because God had put it on my heart what to do right and he loved me and he did not want to see me fall away, no matter how bad I wanted to. So it was like almost having my cake and eating it too. I would try to bring her to Christ. So I would say all the things like Jesus died for our sins, try to bring her to Christ.
Speaker 4:But at the same time because she wasn't a Christian and I was, and I wasn't a very strong Christian we I would fall into temptation with her. So it's like it was like I was like the biggest hypocrite that you could possibly ever think. It was like, hey, I want you to believe in Jesus and I want you to do, I want you to have all these things that he's guaranteed us, but at the same time, we're going to indulge in our sin and you're going to see the hypocrisy in all of my statements. It's like, hey, I care about people. Then we would indulge in sin and the ugly side of me would come out. The sinful sides would come out. I would not be patient, had no idea what true love was. I would ignore like true friends. I was always just chasing whatever would satisfy my flesh. But at the same time, I'm over here trying to promote the gospel and it just doesn't work.
Speaker 2:Is he? I would say, my experience of the I'm sure there's more than one, but I maybe I don't want to think about all of them, but my experiences with missionary dating is that I Would go into it with my first reason being I Wanted to be with that person, and then I justified it by saying, oh, they're not a Christian, okay, I'll just be all evangelized to them. That was, it wasn't really. I think sometimes we like like to dramatize it or romanticize. It's like, oh, I'll help them become a Christian and by dating them, when, if that was our real reason, we would wait until they're a Christian to date them.
Speaker 2:Yeah not because they're less than our calls, we don't think they're important or because we think Christians are better, but we've caused. We believe that having the same values is Important, and I think this is one of the most important values that we can have together.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think you're right. Any other thoughts on that?
Speaker 4:I was gonna say, like, did you ever feel like when you did it? Did you ever feel like you were having like a savior complex? Yeah, yeah, that was something that's explain what that it.
Speaker 1:What does a savior complex mean?
Speaker 4:It kind of like you're there, white knight in shining armor, like they're gonna like think about it. Like you bring, like once you go into missionary dating you, you like it's very self self-centered and it's not gospel centered at all you bring them out of this dark place Saying it's Jesus but it's really it's just for your own benefit, so that they can be like almost like worship you, in a sense, like they're like oh, he's my, that's, I love him so much because he brought him, brought me out of a dark place, like it's almost like. To me it was like a manipulation thing. I wanted them to be obsessed with me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, rather than love me. Yeah, so it was really it's really terrible, but now it's been Traditionally the position that Christians should marry non Christians in general. That's what we talk about. Where does that come from? Like, what's the reasoning behind Christians need to date and marry Christians? Is it because the other people are less Non-believers, they aren't as human as it like? Oh, they're terrible people. Like what? What is the thought process behind Christians should marry Christians?
Speaker 4:real quick. I think you misspoke and you said it's tradition for Christians to date non Christians, so my fault.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Christians today, Christians yeah.
Speaker 5:I think why we do that is because marriage is a picture of Christ and the church. So when we're going off of that picture, how can it not be based around what we believe For our marriage? So if I'm a Christian and say Isaac wasn't, we don't have that same idea of marriage. We don't really understand what it means. So as a Christian, we're supposed to marry other Christians that are as equally immature or, as Jesus puts it, as equally yoked, so that it's a fruitful marriage and that we're both on that same page. You know, because if, if Isaac was lower or if I was lower, then the other one is being brought down. You know having to come back down to that level, if that makes sense, right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think so.
Speaker 2:Zeke, you asked what's the. Can you rephrase like what's the reasoning?
Speaker 1:is it just, oh, we don't like non Christians and whatever they're terrible people like. Why do we say that Christians should date Christians?
Speaker 2:I think Traditionally we've learned it from the Bible itself. We're given, like second Corinthians says, don't be unequally yoked, in the sense of Don't date someone who's an unbeliever and he gives a reason for his life. Can't be With darkness like they don't, they're not compatible, like we have lots on in this room and we don't see darkness. They can't go together, they can't be in the same place at the same time and the same way. So, yeah, you have the biblical side and we have plenty of examples in the Old Testament where kings of Israel end up marrying Women from other nations and it was turned out bad because those women to worship other gods and led them into pagan beliefs and and falling away from God. But practically today, why do we still do that would be because, kind of like what I was saying before, our values don't align. This goes for I think you could apply this to Even unbelievers could use the same logic of not dating Christians. For that reason, I Think our side's a little bit better because we have Christ.
Speaker 2:But with that aside, with the Christian answer aside, I think it's also practical in the sense of, if I'm a Christian, I'm gonna have certain values that a non Christian isn't gonna have. I'm gonna have certain beliefs that non Christian isn't gonna have. I think eventually, if you plan on having a family with that person, if you plan on having kids, you're eventually gonna get to a crossroad where you say, I think we should write, raise the kid this way, and they're gonna say, I think we should raise it this way. And Then you're what are you gonna do? You can't just say, well, let's agree to disagree. You have to make a choice and someone's choice is gonna be made. So that's why it's, practically speaking, good to date other Christians and another thing back on, like the missionary dating is.
Speaker 3:When people missionary date, they think I'm going to convert this person, but the Bible says that bad company corrupts or corrupt. I don't know the exact verse. I know what you're saying. Yeah, what is it?
Speaker 1:What's bad company? Bad, oh goodness. Now. Bad company corrupts good character.
Speaker 3:Is that it Something like? Something like that? Not exactly.
Speaker 1:I'll have on the YouTube video. I'll put the verse up.
Speaker 3:But if you go into dating someone who's not a Christian, think, oh, I'm gonna change them. The Bible kind of tells you exact opposites, like Know the people who don't believe the same things. You are gonna corrupt your good morals, because our flesh wants to go that way. We have to deny our flesh. Yeah and like with the kings and stuff. God be like, don't date people who don't believe the same thing as you.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think those are. Those are great points. I'm gonna play a little bit like did you want to add to that, or I?
Speaker 4:mean other that I Was gonna say something that you told me and I thought it was really cool, like why it's, why it's so important that we date other Christians, and Especially if you're a Christian, if you're a single Christian like me.
Speaker 4:You know that can be a little, that can be like a little nerve-wracking because you're like, well, I don't know, da, da, whatever, whatever your excuse can be, nate told me that why it's so dangerous to date, why it's or not dangerous, but it can be harmful to your, to you as a Christian to date a non-Christian. It's because think about it like this if God like we're running, we're running a marathon, okay, and God is the finish line right, well, if, let's say, you're trying to find a running partner, if you're having to look back at your running partner, you're either gonna like veer off the path, you're gonna fall down, because you can't really look back and run forward at the same time. But instead, you know, look for the person running beside you and if that person's running beside you, you know that's the person you go with.
Speaker 1:You run together, you run together.
Speaker 4:So obviously, if they're not a Christian, they're not running beside you. Mm-hmm, they're not in your like. I'm not saying that they're not trying to maybe seek God, because even if we could I like to use the term non-Christians are almost Christians. Same thing for atheists they're almost Christians. You just got to get them to that point. But you know, if they're not a Christian, they're obviously and you're really far ahead and you're joining with God. There's no sense in like, looking back.
Speaker 5:I think too. They're not even behind you. They're running a different race. Yeah, like they're not even. They're not even in there.
Speaker 3:Yeah, not in your category, nothing yeah imagine being tied to someone with a rope and they're running backwards.
Speaker 4:And you're running forwards.
Speaker 1:It's like how far are?
Speaker 3:you going to get going forwards, yeah.
Speaker 1:No, I think those are. Those are good analogies. So now I'm going to play a little bit of Devil's Advocate, all right. So just I'll bring up some of the various things that people will say in defense of missionary dating. All right, one is there are successful stories of a Christian dating a non-Christian and then the non-Christian, partly because the relationship becomes a Christian and they have a good, happy marriage. So there are stories of successful missionary dating. Does that mean it's okay to do any thoughts that? Ezekiah, I see you grab the mic, take it away. Praise God, praise.
Speaker 2:God, amen. I don't think we should throw out the rule, because there's exceptions to the rule. You know all about that name, oh gosh.
Speaker 3:Oh dagger, Go on, Zeke it's like God can bring good out of anything. But it doesn't mean we should strife to make him bring good out of anything Like Joseph had a dream that and his brothers wanted to kill him and throw him in a pit and all that stuff and sold him. God brought good out of that, but it doesn't mean that we should just be throwing people into slavery.
Speaker 1:Paul has a great verse in what Blake. That was good Again.
Speaker 4:All right.
Speaker 1:So Blake is having a moment here.
Speaker 4:So we should sell people into slavery.
Speaker 1:Paul has a passage about this in Romans where it's like should I sin so that grace may abound more and more? Because we know that God works through all situations, good, bad ugly. So even if we use the wrong equation, mr Engineer Zeke, you get the right answer. It doesn't mean it's always going to work out that way. I think Isaac is a Mr Firefighter. He's coming out with a calendar soon, different pictures, so stay, be ready for that.
Speaker 1:But, isaac, I imagine that there are different ways of putting out a fire. Some are probably good ways, some are probably stupid ways, and so we, just just because something works out, zeke brings up a good point, does not mean that we should throw out a good wisdom. But anyways, any other thoughts before I move to my next point. All right, we'll go on to my next devil's advocate argument, which is the dating pool. Depending on where you live, depending on your social circles. Like, some people have a lot of people their age that they know, some people only know a couple. They might say, hey, where I live, the dating pool is not great. There's not a lot of good people. So sometimes if I meet a mature person, a nice person, you kind of have to take what you can get, depending on your situation. What do you think about that?
Speaker 4:I'm going to speak from personal experience on this one, so this is just an opinion, but for me, I used to think the same thing. I was like there are going to be no, but there's going to be no Christians. That would jail with me. Humor wise, look wise, whatever, like. For some reason, that was just my mentality. I thought I had to go into the world because I had this specific idea of what a girl I would be attracted to would look like, and it definitely wasn't a Christian girl. And I realized that it was. It was not that, but it was that my mentality was so warped from lust, from the things I would watch to the environments I put myself in. I realized that I was basing my idea of what, of a successful relationship, on looks and stuff like that.
Speaker 4:And once I sort of got back on, I guess, got on the right track with God he it was really through him he opened my eyes to a whole new way of looking at things. I really can't explain it, but it's like now, when I see the life, the girls that I used to be attracted to, like you're generic, you know Instagram models and all that stuff the girls I think like, oh, that's the. That's the kind of woman I want to have as a wife. Because of God, that completely changed. You know, now I look for girls that are. You know how much like I look at their maturity, how active they're involved in their church. You know, I look at all these values that God says this is what a godly woman should have, and then I see if a woman has those and because of that and because that God changed my heart and changed my eyes, I find that more attractive. It's like a deeper love. I was able to get away from that wart idea of what love should be and gone to a more like godly based love.
Speaker 1:I think, as we change in maturity, that we you're like you said. What attracts us is a little bit different as we grow closer to God, and I do think there are Any other thoughts before I go on to answer that objection, zeke.
Speaker 2:Take a slot tangent. So I think that Blake was getting at something that is Different for Christians than it is for non Christians and that's the things we look for, because, I mean, earthly beauty is great and all like. I have a gorgeous wife and I'm very blessed, but if, at the end of the day, that's the one thing that I Found in her and that was all that mattered, the problem is that's eventually going to go away. I mean, whether it's after she dies or not, she'll always be beautiful, so it doesn't matter.
Speaker 2:But same time, like you know, if I say, like I really love, like your blonde hair, well, what happens whenever she's old and gray? Okay, I guess I can't love her anymore. Oh, I love that you have such nice skin. What happens if she gets in a car wreck and now she has terrible skin? All those things are temporary. But if I, like Blake, was saying, if I have things that I care more about, like her character, her love for God, different things like that, that aren't external, those things can change. But if that's the kind of person I'm looking for, those things probably aren't one change like things that we can't control. Those are things we can't control.
Speaker 3:That's.
Speaker 4:I think I appreciate you because I was like Ward salad right there. I appreciate that.
Speaker 3:You're welcome. I think you can appreciate characteristics about somebody without having to like say, oh, that's why I love them. Because I think, like the way, even with your character and stuff, like people's characters can change. So if we love somebody because of their character, this it could change and do not love that person anymore. So it's more like I love this person because I've made a commitment to them and God has told me that I have to love them no matter what. But, like you, can Appreciate someone's beauty.
Speaker 3:You can like even if it fades, you can like, I think, mackenzie's smoking All right, but you know, like you don't have. That's not the reason you love them, and I think I think that's kind of what you are getting at.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you said what I was Forgot to say, but yeah, it's a sense of like if Chloe was to say why do you love me? And I started listening off.
Speaker 4:What's your?
Speaker 2:personality, it's your beauty, is this and this. At the end of the day, that can change and that's kind of defeating if that's all your love is based off of, but if your love is I love you because I love you. I've heard that like two years ago I was like that's stupid.
Speaker 3:I.
Speaker 2:But I came around to. I was like you know what? That's what God says to us every day. Yeah we don't have anything to offer him, and yet he loves us all the same.
Speaker 1:I think a couple things. Some, isaac, by referencing, you know, by using the description Smoking hot wife has immediately been hired at his local mega church. So he is now the youth pastor of the local mega church.
Speaker 4:Yeah, praise God, we already go to church. Right there in the front row, you saved me.
Speaker 1:And then Zeke Chloe is not here with us today for this video, but, chloe, if you watch, you make sure to you know brownie points right there from Zeke, so and Zeke knows what he's doing, brownie points there and if my future wife is watching.
Speaker 4:You're also smoking hot. I just got to find you.
Speaker 3:Anyways.
Speaker 1:Anyways, going back to the, the point of well, what about the dating pool, if it's not great? There's also something we could do a better job in the church, which is celebrating singleness, that if you are single, there is nothing wrong with you. You're not lesser than you're not less valuable. Sometimes we celebrate marriage, and it's it is, a beautiful, great thing. But with singleness you have a lot of opportunities to serve. Paul talks about this in first Corinthians. You are able to devote yourself to the Lord in ways that other people cannot. So I just want to emphasize that that if the dating pool is Not great and there's not someone immediately available or that you might be interested in, and you're in a season of singleness, as it's called, that's okay, like nothing is wrong with that, and then God will guide you in future plans. But before we go on to number three, Isaac, I want to add something to that.
Speaker 3:Okay, sometimes you said we need to celebrate it more, which is awesome, but sometimes I feel like people who are single are like man. It's so hard being single. When I get married, it's just gonna be the easiest thing the world is gonna be so great.
Speaker 4:It's gonna fulfill me.
Speaker 3:Yeah and marriage is beautiful but, like you were saying, so is singleness. They're beautiful in different ways, like if you're single, you can serve God with everything you have. If you're married, you can serve God with everything you have left.
Speaker 4:You know what I mean.
Speaker 3:Like like you have to give to your wife and you have to give to your husband whatever situation you're in. And it's beautiful, but it's also Difficult and things just like. Singleness is beautiful and difficult. It's like the grass is greener kind of thing. But wherever God has you just serve him wherever God has you, serve him.
Speaker 1:I think that's a good point about marriage. So, for example, like companionships, good, but if you are Lonely as a single person, odds are you will be lonely as a marriage person. As a married person, that marriage person that if you are struggling with lust related issues as a single person, being married does not solve those lust issues. And so sometimes, isaac, you're right, we view marriage as a cure. It's not a. Singleness is difficult, married life is difficult, just certain things to keep in mind. Blake, did you have any thoughts?
Speaker 4:No, I got a single.
Speaker 4:It just some advice for like single Christians out there If you ever feel like you're getting to a point where it's getting too hard.
Speaker 4:Some one thing I had to do and it it came from the mouth of a married Christian, but she was talking about how it was getting really hard for her to be single and she had to take a step back and this isn't for everyone, but for me it was.
Speaker 4:She had to take a step back and realize that she was making the idea of a having a relationship with someone an idol and it was taking away from her, from her objective to God. And so if you ever find yourself where it's getting like too hard or it's all you think about, take a moment to like sit down and have a conversation with God and say like, hey, god, if I'm making this an idol, like reveal it to me, yeah. Or if you feel like it's all you think about, just get, just start building a start building back or not building back, but start Looking at your relationship with God and say like, hey, maybe I am making this idea of being in a relationship with someone an idol. I need to get back to building my relationship with God as a single person, and you know it for me once I did that. It has greatly helped me with being single, like Absolutely.
Speaker 4:We got to be careful of the idols, so I Am so good at being single, I might do it for a living.
Speaker 1:We'll go to the third objection that we commonly hear for missionary dating, which is I've dated Christians before and before and these Christians have mistreated me. There's abuse, there's broken promises. There's Christians haven't done very well in my past when it comes to relationships. So therefore, if I meet a non-Christian who treats me better than a Christian ex, nicer, let's say, hardworking, good character, all of those things I think that that's okay, because the Christians I've known in my past haven't been good to me. What are your thoughts there, with just bad Christian experiences? So therefore, if I date a non-Christian who treats me better, that's okay.
Speaker 3:What's the saying? Throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Speaker 1:Don't throw the baby out, no, no, throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Speaker 3:Yeah, don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Speaker 4:Yes, Put a gift of a baby.
Speaker 1:Any other thoughts there?
Speaker 2:I can't remember who it was. I want to say, I want to say You're doing great Zeke. I hate all of you.
Speaker 1:So for those of you listening on the podcast and you're not going to see all this on video unless you want to what happens is with the different mics. Sometimes you have to talk into them in different ways, and Zeke is just doing an amazing job of speaking into the mic. So, zeke, take it away.
Speaker 2:What was I saying?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, anyways, there's someone.
Speaker 2:I want to say it was Thomas Aquinas, but I'm just saying that because I make myself look smarter. I don't remember who it was.
Speaker 1:Oh, aquinas, the name dropping there, I think so he's dead, so I can name drop him now.
Speaker 2:According to Nate, he can't defend himself. He said something along the lines of if we judge every segment of society by its worst cases, none of us could stand.
Speaker 2:In the sense of this goes for this too. If you judge all Christians by the worst ones, then yeah, you're going to have a terrible view of Christianity. But how about we take the best parts of society and the best parts, the best Christians? Okay, let's take Jesus, what does Jesus look like? And then let's start making our standards based off that, not based off of some of the bad seats.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think there's wisdom there. Thoughts Mackenzie.
Speaker 5:I think when you have that mindset of well, maybe I'll try someone who's not a Christian, You're trying to get a little bit of the world and still have mostly Jesus, but just that tiny little bit of the world. But it's more. If I heard this illustration, if I gave you a cup of coffee and I'm like there's just a little bit of pee in it, Just a little bit, Not much, just a little bit.
Speaker 1:Isaac, I'd be very careful in the future.
Speaker 5:Are you going to want that cup of coffee? No, because, like Jesus says, or bad company corrupts good character, like it doesn't matter. Honestly, if it's 1%, if you're 99% for it, and just that 1% is eating away at you, or if you're 50% and 50% like. Either way, if you're not 100% in, then what does it really matter?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think that's good to keep in mind. For those of you who have dated Christians before and they've been not great, maybe terrible, I do think that is. I apologize for that. I'm sorry as well. That's a terrible experience to have.
Speaker 1:However, going back to the beginning of this podcast slash video, remember what you're ultimately after. You are after worshiping God, obeying him, loving and serving, raising godly children, being a light in a dark world. There are a lot of godly, biblical goals that we have in marriage that, even if you had bad experiences with immature Christians in the past, that doesn't take away the ultimate purpose of marriage. It mirrors the marriage between the church and Jesus and all those things. We won't rehash what we talked about a little while ago, but it does not take away from the fact that marriage has a higher purpose, spiritual, godly purpose that you can't accomplish with a non-believer.
Speaker 1:Any other thoughts there with that one, or we can wrap this up Blake Checkmate, atheist. Well, there we go. Any other thoughts on the overall topic of missionary dating? Anything you want to share? Don't do it, just don't, just don't do it. I would agree with that. Like I said, there are bad experiences, but that doesn't take away from a very good thing, which is marriage and us trying to glorify God with our lives. Well, friends, that is. I was going to say something. I do have one more thing to say, sorry.
Speaker 3:For real, blake, when you were doing this and we were telling you not to what would get through to you, to somebody else to say like instead of just saying don't do it, because we told you that like 50,000 times. So what would get through to someone?
Speaker 4:Because we told Zeke to so what got through to me was and this is going to sound terrible, but what got through to me was eventually, like everything fell out from underneath me. That's what got through to me, but I will oh, don't get shot though, no, hang on, okay. What gotwhat really helped me out through all that was all my friends, because I had built a really good Christian group of friends. They stayed by me and they played the long game, which is what we've said in like the very first podcast. And For someone that is going through that and they do put themselves in very bad situations play the long game. Always say like Don't do it, you know, keep, keep trying to guide them on the right way, but always play the long game, because eventually their world's gonna fall out from underneath them and if they have nobody to catch them, it can be very bad.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'll add on to that with my experience, the thing that helped me. So Advice for the person who's going through it and then advice for the person who's watching it being gone through. For the person who's going through it, you have to make the decision. Everyone can tell you what to do, but ultimately you have to be the one to do it, otherwise it won't last, because I've had people who Forcibly made me to stop it and I just went right back to it. Eventually, I came to the conclusion of you know what I'm gonna do. This it's gonna be over with. I ended it. Now. For the person who's Watching it happen. For that person, I'm just gonna repeat what Blake said just be with that person. Yeah, spend time with them, care for them, love on them and when the time comes and they're ready and they've made the decision, drop what you're doing and go help them. But until then, you just do what you can.
Speaker 1:I think that's well put, mackenzie.
Speaker 5:I just wanted to add to, maybe for advice for the people who missionary dated and now they're in a marriage where they have realized I Am a Christian and I believe these things, but now my spouse doesn't like. Maybe to them I would say Keep pursuing God and Living it out in your life so that your spouse can see, because it can be hard when you're in that marriage and you have to actually honor the sanctity of it with a spouse that doesn't believe those same things to. So to that I would say just keep going after God and as he wins over his bride of the church, there's hope that you can win them over too. Nothing is impossible with God and he. He ultimately wants good for us. So there's hope, there's hope.
Speaker 1:There's hope.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I mean, the Christian life is not always good, as in the sense of everything goes the way we want it to, but God is always good.
Speaker 1:God is good.
Speaker 4:You can totally put your faith in that and rest on that.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I think Mackenzie brings up a good point that do the right thing, love, serve the patient. Listen, I guess killing with kindness is one phrase will sometimes use. Just Try to model Christ. We're not gonna be perfect perfect, but try to model Christ in the way that we live. Well, friends like share, subscribe, tell other people about this YouTube channel, check us out online. Here's our patreon. Oh, I'm down there anyways, let let people know about the podcast that they'll.
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